Is it mean..?

[Lulu]

Do you think it's mean to have a child of mixed "race"? The child not fitting into either culture?

I was talking to my mum about this a few days ago. Her comments were as followed, She thinks that the child would not be accepted by both culture races etc. For example If an "English" man married an "Asian" woman, the Asian society would shun the child and the child would receive racism from the English culture, but she did say not by all because most aren't narrow minded. Is it fair for us to inflict this onto our children? The not having a sense of belong but feel "out-of-place"

I've made my decision that I will marry who I want, I don't like all this "Own" race Lark, Because we are all of one race the "Human" Race. I myself am not "White" but i'm British Muslim and Asian.

I don't think that if I ever did do that, that i'm being "mean" because..slowly times are changing, are they not?

What are your comments to these narrow minded opinions, would you want your child to be an "outcast"?

~Lulu~

[secondxheartbeat]

I can understand where you are coming from. I myself am Korian, and American. And I was out-casted for it, and beat up for it as a child. But now I look at the people who used to laugh at me for being two halves of a different race.

They laughed at me because I'm different.
Now I laugh at them because they're all the same.

Of course, when I have a child they're going to be different anyways because I'm half Korian. And besides, I've already fallen in love with an american. So, they would be 1/4th Korian.

Anyways. I do not agree with the narrow-minded people one bit. They should not ridicule a child for being something they could not prevent. It pisses me off to no end. *Sighs* But I don't want to ruin my good mood, so I'll just leave it at that.

-Vincent

[xXxCloud_StrifexXx]

I would never be able to understand the feelings of someone who was shunned, ridiculed, beaten, or anything of that sort for the reason because of their mixed heritage because I am 100% Asian (Vietnamese). But in my opinion, it is horrid and absolutely deplorable to do so. It's not their fault they were born, nor into what kind of life/heritage they were born into.

Also, most Americans are "mixes" themselves. I don't understand how they could ridicule a person for being...I don't know, half...black and Chinese.

As for the parents' side, it's not mean at all as long as the two of them are in love and love their child(ren) and [are willing to] support them [and do so]. It's crueler for a parent to marry someone they didn't love because they are of the same heritage/race. That would make the marriage, in itself, something that would reflect itself on the child.

I understand the criticism is out there. We have neighbors, and I suppose they're my friends--but I don't really speak with them. The husband is Vietnamese and my mother's boss' younger brother. The wife is Amerasian--or, in other words, part American and part Asian. Thus the children are Amerasians as well. The children are lovely, but annoying as heck as all children tend to be. The wife is nice and softspoken, and the husband is hardworking and loves to talk. A normal family. But always, whenever I'm around my mom's Vietnamese friends, I hear them gossiping. And three guesses about whom. I'm baffled, bewildered, angered, saddened, among other things whenever this happens. They even do it when she's around! And only because she can't understand a word that comes out of their mouths. It's despicable if I can say so about my own mother.

A fair reason to dislike a person is you don't like their personality or how they act. Don't hate them over something they can't control.


That's only my opinion. I don't know how to make myself clear on this subject, so I just wrote whatever came to mind as it came...along with my viewpoint and feelings.


~~~Cloud

[secondxheartbeat]

Very noble, Cloud. *Smiles* I agree with you. Dislike them for their personality, or how they treat you/others. Not because of their heratidge. And I believe this is the most I've heard to speak, Cloud. But that's beside the point. I heard two kids that live in my neighborhood area talking about this kid they go to school with that's two halves of a different race. They were being horrid too! Making fun of the kid. I got onto them for it. It wasn't fair. If you have something to say about someone, say it to their face. Just shows how weak you are if you can't.

Very interesting topic by the way Lulu. *Smiles again*

-Vincent

[xXxCloud_StrifexXx]

*laughs softly* Is this really the most you've heard from me? Wow. Most likely it is because I feel very strongly about this topic.

Noble? I would thank you, but I wouldn't say I was noble. I see things for what they are, and if there is anyway to make it better or help, I look for it and grasp it. Whenever they speak of my neighbor, who wishes to be friends with the other Asian women and kindly invites them into her lovely home on many (and I do mean many) occasions, I just have to speak out and defend her. My mother is bewildered, of course, as she should be for it is very rude for a child to speak against their parent in an Asian community, but I couldn't very well let them keep on badmouthing her, now could I?

Of course, thankfully, the moment I do speak out, they stop. But not for very long, I regret to say. *sighs* Whatever I say to them, using whatever they said about her against them, they stop and are thoughtful -- and I might be kidding myself -- and appologetic, but they start again not much long after.

Why can't people learn?

~~~Cloud

Yes, very interesting topic, Lulu. *slight smile*